Yes, yes, yes. Love is equal, love is eternal, love doesn´t know gender or sexual orientation. Love is the most beautiful and wonderful thing we can share with another human being. And it was about damn time that the “holy institution of matrimony” was opened up to same-sex marriage!
Ireland inspired us with its referendum on same-sex marriage in May of this year and America finally takes a hint and follows suit (yeah, I know it was long in the making and not just on a whim). Sadly, only 12 nations in Europe (to date) legalized same sex marriage (Belgium, Denmark, Finland effective 2017, France, Iceland, Luxembourg, the Netherlands, Norway, Portugal, Spain, Sweden and the UK). My home country, Germany, is sadly not up to standards. Since August 1st of 2001 same sex couples can legally get married but are not allowed to call it a “marriage” but a “Registered Life Partnership” Talk about the power of linguistics. That is like saying “sure, we are tolerant, and of course you are equal to heterosexuals but….yeah, not really!” Let´s keep same-sex couples neatly packed up in a little marginalized corner of society, where they can tie the knot but are not allowed to adopt, inherit, or pay taxes as heterosexuals. It is sickening to me and does not make any sense.
But what annoys me most about the ongoing discussion in Germany, which has rekindled since Irelands decision to legalize same-sex marriage, is politicians and their flimsy, flawed and frankly, quite stupid way of arguing against same sex marriage.
“Well, it should be a union between a man and a woman, because its purpose is to produce children!”- Really? Ok, then let´s follow that train of thought for a moment. If the purpose is to produce children then what about people who are infertile for some reason? What about people who simply do not want children? What about people who cannot have children, because they are “too old” and it is biologically no longer possible? What about adopting children – can those parents be married, when they are not biologically children?
Should these people be excluded from marriage as well? Well, it sounds like they should!
Furthermore, many politicians who argue this way are married but have no children! Talk about hypocrisy!
Another thing that bugs me is the fear of many people that somehow same sex marriage is going to “destroy society” or take something away from them. They act as if same sex couples want to steal something that is theirs. Nonsense! What is there to lose? Nothing! It only means that two people who love each other can get married and can enjoy the benefits that come from that. And don´t pretend that heterosexual couples are not thrilled, that they pay lesser taxes and have no trouble visiting each other in the hospital, adopt children or ,god forbid, that they have no legal troubles should one partner pass away. Yeah, yeah, marriage is about love, but there are legal advantages, which same-sex marriages, in Germany at least, are excluded from.
As to the claim that it destroys society – there has yet to be proof that same sex marriage or homosexuality in general, destroys the structural integrity of our society. Do more people turn gay because the acceptance and tolerance increases – no, because firstly, no one can turn someone gay, and if people perceive a rise in coming – outs it is because people, who have always been gay, finally feel free and safe enough to be who they are. Does criminality rise? I think not (that is just my guess ), do education standards slip – no. Are you afraid to walk alone in the street, because of all the gays – no. You get my point. I´ll not waste my and your time on those arguments any further.
Let us not think about, wars, drugs, corrupt politicians and industrialists, world hunger, the oppression of females, modern slavery, prostitution, abuse, domestic violence….which of course are less damaging forces in our society, but focus on why we should not allow two people who love each other to get married!
All same-sex marriage promotes is LOVE, and believe you me, the world needs as much love as it can get!
So, educate those around you, speak up and remember….LOVE WINS!!!!